Dr. James Kelley
Dr. James Kelley is a phenomenal speaker, expert in employee and consumer behavior, with a Ph.D. in International Marketing from Perth, Australia. He is the founder of Brave Endurance Consulting, a company that helps organizations lower their health care costs by understanding their employee’s behavior and well-being through research and communication strategies. He is also the host of the podcast show “Executives After Hours” where he interview business leaders about their journey. Dr. James is working on the first part of his book trilogy inspired by his podcast interviews.
What to Expect
- Dr. James’ inspiration for consumer behavior
- The only child syndrome
- People are more actually alike than different
- Learning from different cultures
- How to achieve confidence
- Every religion’s core philosophy
- Authentic Leadership
- The idea of crucibles in life
- The fear of the unknown vs. not knowing
- Failure is success
- Daily routines for success
Dr. Jame Kelley has lived in different countries on different continents across the globe. According to him, for Western countries like us, we are very individualistic in culture. We always prioritize ourselves first. Whereas in most countries from Asia, they are collective in culture. The village raises the kids with them; unrelated people also help out. Their opinion in a collectivist culture becomes second to the norm of the group. The sense of family, honor, culture and having to belong in a particular pattern matters the most.
One of the less obvious observations Dr. James drew from this is that people are more alike than different. They tend to have the same common theme. If you are someone that’s highly influenced by your peers, that’s not something impacted by your border. In Japan, everything is in order; they tell you where to stand or walk. When you go to New York, there are no rules; it’s always like a stampede, people are everywhere. Regardless of age, color, religion, or race, there is always a central belief. You just have to find these commonalities if you are trying to market a brand across borders.
Struggle with Confidence
Despite all his achievements in life with a great resume at his back, Dr. James still struggles with confidence. He clears this issue by saying he is confident with who he is but has some issues with his intellectual self. Working on a lot of things without focusing on something is one part. Being in a room of intellectuals, he questions if he is worthy of 30 years experience in the industry. Dr. James says that this all explains his over indulgence in higher education. He was never satisfied and constantly wants to prove himself.
Eager to do something about it, Dr. James shares his discovery and routine; You develop confidence by giving gratitude. Every time he wakes up each morning, he spends the first five minutes of his day to recognize what he is grateful for. It instantly shifts his mood and always puts him in a much better place.
Advice to his Kids
To work by traveling the world is one great job for sure but it’s also something that makes you adapt to so many cultures and changes over time. Dr. James jokes about his decision to accept the challenge by saying he can’t afford to go on vacation, so he just lived in these countries. It was his curiosity that drove him there. When we are young, it’s always the fear of the unknown versus not knowing that drives us in life. For Dr. James, it’s the latter that scares him more.
For me, I realized it’s the fear of failing that scares me the most. Dr. James shared his stories of failure over time and gave the two things he always tells to his kids.
- You Will Fail. Failing is acceptable; it is wanted, it is needed. Failing is how we reach success. He tells them that he doesn’t want them to succeed all the time, they don’t have to be the best. He wants them to be in situations where they grow as a human being
- Don’t Let Fear Conquer you, overcome fear. Acknowledge it, accept it and move forward with it.
- “I was never confident with my achievements. That explained my over indulgence in higher education; I always wanted to prove myself.”
- “I always had a sense of wonder above all things. There was this natural curiosity that I have developed.”
- “The people who are monetarily successful are great, but I love those who are successful and spiritually fulfilled. They are open and honest.”
- “Every religion has the same philosophy; “Do unto others what you want to be done to you.” You don’t need religion to tell you that, it’s common sense.”
- “I am confident with who I am; I’m just not confident with my intellectual side. Do I belong in a room of intellectuals, somebody worthy of 30 years in the industry?”
- “My journey has always been who I am in the greater context of life.”
- “Unless you go through your crucible in life, you’re not forced to be self-reflective and aware of who you are your strengths and weaknesses.”
- “One of the fundamental questions of human beings is that; Why do some people succeed and some don’t?”
- “When you’re young it’s the fear of the unknown versus the fear of not knowing. For me, it’s not knowing that scares me more.”
- “You will fail, failing is acceptable, it’s wanted, it’s needed. Failing is how you reach success.”
- “Don’t let fear conquer you, conquer fear. Acknowledge it, accept it, move forward with it.”
- “The best CEO’s are the ones who fail the most because they understand how it goes.”
I don’t want you to succeed all the time or to be the best. I want you to be in situations where you grow as a human being.